I am writing this , not for finding excuses to escape my responsibility as a Ph.d candidate, not for prelude to quitting my research career,
but just for analyzing the reason why I don’t enjoy doing research so far and how I can be more prepared for the following years.
Tell the truth, I think Research is very very hard. It doesn’t require a lot of intelligence as I thought it would,
It requires a lot of will-power, self-control and self-appreciation, just like losing weight or quitting smoking, rehabbing.
People prefer instant gratification to long term benefits. Though a piece of cake is tremendously unhealthy, it is still the favorite food for all most everyone on earth. WHY? because tons of fat and sugar in the cake just instantly raises blood-glucose, consequently, enhance our mood. So we all love it to death.
However, healthy food, like vegetables, fruits and nuts, are still constantly denied by lots of people, extremely children, who is obviously lack willpower.
I can’t deny there are lots of people have succeeded in the battle with fat, unfortunately I am not one of them. I don’t blame myself for weak willpower or self-control. I attribute most of the failure to lack of incentives. I don’t have to please anyone who I don’t care and my body is not my tools of making a living. why suffering?
The same logic applies for research. Research usually takes lots of time, from knowing the subject quite well, to have some good ideas, to implement the ideas and get good results, even to convince others and selling this ideas.
You can be trapped at every single step, even you get up and back on the track, you still can’t
get the instant rewards to power you on….. So lots of people quit, suffer and hate to be a graduate, even in the best institution plus the best whether and perhaps the largest stipend compared with others…
My parents are always not supportive in my career, even in my earlier stage of studying. The most valuable thing in their eyes for a woman ——-is to get married and have kids and enjoy all the luxury products.
I used to rebel for the sake of rebelling. Maybe I just don’t like them so I did everything opposite to their wishes. However, now I am much mature. Especially when they called me during Thanksgiving holiday, begging me to go back home and marry someone. I really have gave it a second thought.
But the answer is still NO. I don’t want to quit, maybe I just don’t want to settle and leave a problem unsolved, especially for this big problem.