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On the first day of 2017, as usual, I made up a list of new year resolutions, of which the top one is quitting drinking.
Don’t mistake it as hatred towards alcohol. Definitely no, I am a big fan of it. Alcohol is a pleasure, occasional and social drinking is one of the things I enjoy the most in life. However, the problem is my excessive drinking. In another words, I am addicted to it.
For the last two years, I have to drink every single day, otherwise, I just can not fall asleep. Whenever I feel down, I open a beer or wine. More often, I intentionally indulge myself to drink to black out because I don’t want to remember anything. Alcohol is my only way to escape from all the problems I have to face in life. The sad thing is , the next morning, when I recover from the hangover, I feel it even harder to solve the problem at hand.
So, I made up my mind, I need to stop drinking. But this task seems like impossible. The first day I made up my mind, I broke it at night when seeing two friends drinking downsides and joining them. I calmed myself down by saying it was fine, since I am Chinese, the new year in Chinese calendar was still one months away. Ironically, in the first day of Chinese new year, I was totally drunk and slept in bed for two days.
The struggle to quit drinking is harder than I think. But I need to do that, I don’t want to screw my life and eternally out of control.
As an engineer, my way of solving a problem is to start with the real cause of it. I soon realize that like all other addictions, the real problem is not the substance that I am craving for, in this case, wine or beer, but the emotional and psychological needs in my heart. I am just no satisfied with my current condition, both work and life, but can not find the way to get out. I feel empty and powerless.
So instead of using willpower to quit drinking, I start to use other ways to empower myself, regaining my confidence in myself. Learning new skills, working out, building muscle and adding nutrition in my diet, those things seem small but quite effective.
Whenever I feel the impulse to drink, I go and run 3 miles. Running is a great way to regain your control.
Though I can not say I have successfully quit drinking, I still want to share this experience with others who are struggling with all kinds of addictions. The problem with addiction is really not about particular substance or behavior, it has a deep psychological root that you need to dig and face honestly. Addiction only provides a temporal smooth at a cost of much more severe trouble in future. Only through facing yourself directly can you truly get back control of yourself.