Notes on The Art of the Novel

Milan Kundera is considered one of the greatest novelists in 20th century, thus he is in the right position to talk about this topic, the art of the novel.

Although Kundera in the preface to The Art of the Novel writes, “I have tried to express here the idea of the novel that is inherent in my own novels,” the book is not restricted to his own work but rather addresses broader questions concerning the genre, such as the uniqueness of the form, its vitality, and its future. Divided into seven chapters, the book appears to be fragmented because of the different forms (essay, dialogue, public address, and dictionary entries) employed and the disjointed style that resulted from the pieces being written over a period of several years and published in various journals and newspapers. Kundera insists, however, that the sections were conceived of as a book. As one reads, certain themes and ideas recur and complement one another. Thus, although initially the chapters seem unrelated in form and content, a whole emerges.

The opening essay, “The Depreciated Legacy of Cervantes”—first published in 1984 in The New York Review of Books under the title of “The Novel and Europe”—outlines the history of the European novel. Kundera traces the adaptations that the novel has made over the four centuries, changes made in response to an evolving society. Paraphrasing Edmund Husserl, Kundera argues that the modern age began when Galileo Galilei and René Descartes elevated the importance of that which can be measured, resulting in a degradation of those things that were not scientific or technical. As the sciences became more and more specialized and exclusive, the world became more and more fragmented. Man could not hope to comprehend the world and as a result could not even comprehend himself. In Don Quixote de la Mancha, Miguel de Cervantes opposed this trend toward measurement and focused on the forgotten self. Indeed, it is the novel which illuminates, and recovers from the oppressiveness of science, various aspects of man’s existence.

The great novelists throughout history have modified the novel to accommodate changes in society. Cervantes encountered a world that had lost its sense of certainty. God no longer retained the supreme position that He had held in the Middle Ages. As a result, Cervantes focused on the ambiguity that confronts man as he realizes that there are no absolutes and therefore finds himself faced with unrestrained freedom. Thus, the world of Don Quixote is one of adventure: Anything is possible. A hundred years later, Samuel Richardson examined the interior life of the individual. In the nineteenth century, Gustave Flaubert faced a world bounded by institutions and government; he chronicled the trivial events of daily existence. In the twentieth century, Marcel Proust explored the effect of the past on the individual, and James Joyce questioned the ability to know the present. Kundera argues that soon all accepted value systems will be discredited and abolished, resulting in the dominance of irrationality. Modern novelists, including Franz Kafka, Robert Musil, and Hermann Broch, have already addressed this situation. Of all the genres, only the novel has been able to reflect the changes in perception that have accompanied the emergence of modern man.

In this part is the lecture, given in Vienna and Prague, on the crisis in the humanities, by Edmund Husserl. By “European,” Husserl meant that “passion to know” which began in Greece, and which has since characterized the Western philosophic tradition. It began its modern secular trajectory when Galileo and Descartes narrowed the emphasis of thought to what could be demonstrated scientifically; they wholly neglected the Lebenswelt , Heidegger’s “beautiful and almost magical phrase,” for the concrete experience of living in the world. Cervantes founded another vital modern tradition: the novel with its chosen concentration on being. Cervantes took up the problem of adventure; and there followed him other writers who “discovered other dimensions of existence one by one.” There was Samuel Richardson with “what happened inside,” the “secret life of the feelings”; Balzac, with man’s rootedness in history; Flaubert, and the quotidian dimension of life; and later Tolstoy, Proust, Joyce and Mann all devoted themselves to exploring new areas; for, as Kundera, quoting his Austrian master, Hermann Broch, wrote: “the sole raison d’etre of a novel is to discover what can only be discovered by a novel.”

Descartes faced the world as a “thinking self”; Cervantes in a world apparently devoid of any divine order, faced it as a “welter of contradictory truths,” where the only “certainty” was the “wisdom of uncertainty.” The open adventurous spaces of Cervantes’ world were gradually foreclosed in the 19th Century. There is some possibility of adventure still left in Balzac, but there is no such possibility for Emma Bovary; the lost infinity of the world can only be replaced by the “irreplaceable uniqueness of the individual.” This process goes much further in Kafka, where the “suprahuman force of an omnipotent society” takes over, and adventure is reduced to “a petty squabble with the administration over a mistake in the file of Kafka’s K.”

Is the novel, then, now over? Kundera asks. He answers no, but, gravely threatened by the “whirlpool of reduction” of the media, it can continue “only against the progress” of the “spirit of our time.” Kundera ends the Cervantes essay by asking himself what he is personally attached to? “My answer is as ridiculous as it is sincere; I am attached to nothing but the depreciated legacy of Cervantes.” Such is Kundera’s wry assertion of his devotion to the diminishing inheritance of the novel.

Two dialogues:

How does the necessary complexity get into Kundera’s fiction? The process is illuminated in The Art of the Novel by two dialogues which draw on detailed illustrations from his novels and which valuably help one to understand how they work. Although Kundera throws away much traditional apparatus – elaborate description of character and setting, psychological realism, interior monologue, historical background, and so on – he insists that the concentration on his characters’ existential situations that this permits does not make them less life-like. A character, after all, is not a real person but a kind of ‘experimental self’, and the novel in Kundera’s hands is a ‘meditative interrogation’ conducted in the hope of getting to the heart of that self in that situation.

Vital aids to this process are certain key terms. To understand Tereza in The Unbearable Lightness of Being you have to grasp what is meant by vertigo; Life is elsewhere was originally titled ‘The Lyrical Age’ and enquires into the connections between youth, lyricism and revolution; The Book of Laughter and Forgetting is based on the words ‘forgetting’, ‘laughter’, ‘angels’, litost, and ‘border’. The analysis and definition of such terms make up a novel’s theme, which is itself worked out by the story. Story without theme – narrative with no element of existential enquiry – makes a book go flat, in Kundera’s view. A film can hardly dwell on the fundamental words which articulate a theme in the way a novel can, and (despite the favourable reception of the movie version of The Unbearable Lightness of Being) it must remain doubtful whether a Kunderan text is in any real sense transferable to another medium. Although he formerly taught in a film school, Kundera nowhere mentions cinema in The Art of the Novel, nor does he acknowledge that it has had any influence on his narrative methods. Film would also find it difficult to accommodate the authorial intrusion that is so marked a feature of the Kunderan manner. The author himself may discuss a novel’s key word in one of those digressions which come naturally to an admirer of Sterne, but he is quick to disclaim any special authority when doing so; he admits to being provocative merely, playful, expressing one possibility among the many which it is the business of the novel to display but not to decide between.

Kundera was a musician before he was a writer, and musical considerations have profoundly affected his ideas about composition. One of the most liberating features of his style is the extreme variability of the length of his narrative units. This gives him a remarkable, and clearly consciously exercised, control over tempo. Kundera himself compares Part Five of Life is elsewhere (81 pages, 11 chapters, moderato) with Part Four (20 pages, 25 chapters, prestissimo). Tempo naturally governs mood and emotion, and Kundera’s mastery of it helps to give his novels their fascinating flexibility and ambiguity – and lightness. He also makes analogies between the effect of a sequence of musical movements and the juxtaposition of different sections of a novel. All Kundera’s works except The Farewell Party have a seven-part structure, and he is eager to appeal to the parallel case of Beethoven’s Op. 131 Quartet, a seven-movement work. The Art of the Novel itself is a collection of pieces written for widely varying occasions: internally consistent but not continuous, it too has seven parts.

 

The reason Kundera’s seven parts are no more than seven must ultimately be that they are not eight, as Lear’s fool would say. Why that number feels right to him cannot be explained. This readiness, amid so much highly self-conscious self-explication, to let the irrational have its head goes with such things as Kundera’s hostility to allegory and the hospitality he shows to ‘oneiric’ or dream-like narrative. In allegory events are there for a reason, planted by the novelist to assist his thesis. Kundera prefers the mysterious power of happenings which, like dreams, are unwilled but which carry with them their own seductive poetry. Nevertheless, some theatres of the irrational in Kundera’s work do not get much discussed in The Art of the Novel, brilliantly self-aware though it is. In a talk appended to the Penguin edition of The Book of Laughter and Forgetting, Kundera notes that ‘with me everything ends in great erotic scenes, and explains that such scenes generate a sharp light which reveals the essence of the characters and their situations. Sexuality is so important in Kundera’s stories – and not least because he presents it in so unpornographic a way – that it isn’t just vulgar curiosity which makes one wish he had discussed it more fully here. ‘Sixty-Three Words’, the little dictionary included in The Art of the Novel, has a laconic gloss on ‘excitement’ as ‘the basis of eroticism, its deepest enigma, its key term’ – which may be true but hardly takes us very far.

One technical reason for the success of the erotic in Kundera is his eagerness to throw out the predictable and the superfluous, the method of what he here calls ‘radical divestment’. The modern world has become so complex that one cannot treat it comprehensively without being condemned to endless length and therefore sacrificing shape. The answer is ellipsis. Janáček is admired for his courage in discarding conventional musical note-spinning – exposition, development, variation, and so on – and going for the essential. Similarly, Kundera wants to ditch those familiar parts of the novel that are just ‘technique’, automatic verbalism, filling-in. His ambition ‘to bring together the extreme gravity of the question and the extreme lightness of the form’ could hardly be more sympathetic.

Kundera plausibly supplies the vocabulary in which his work seems to ask to be discussed, and there may be a danger (as in the case of Henry James) that the novelist’s unusual critical intelligence will lure us into taking him too much on his own terms. There must, for instance, be more to be said about the connections between his fiction and recent history than Kundera offers. He claims that in order to read his novels no knowledge of Czech history is necessary beyond what they themselves contain. The Prague spring in The Book of Laughter and Forgetting is not presented as a specific political crisis but as a ‘fundamental existential situation’; the basic donnée of The Jokeis not just a local illustration of how the Czech Communist Party behaved at a given time. But perhaps Kundera’s wish to detach his work from too particular an application and to play down its real-life sources is partly due to the understandable desire of a writer to universalise – or at least to Europeanise – his art when deprived of a continuing relationship with his community.

Kundera, however, is consistent, in that he sees Kafka’s situation in a similar light. If life in Prague at certain times has come to resemble the world of Kafka’s novels, it is not because Kafka was or aimed to be a political prophet, but because of his insight into a fundamental possibility of man’s existence which history has subsequently caught up with. Kafka is, in Kundera’s sense, a true novelist: non-allegorical, non-engaged, ideologically autonomous, committed only to the discovery of truth through the fusion of reality and dream. Kundera’s chapter on him – in itself highly perceptive as an introduction to its subject – ends with a heartfelt declaration of his desire to hold onto Kafka’s artistic legacy.

Dan Jacobson alludes adversely to Kundera in an essay (on Sinyavsky) collected inAdult Pleasures, but only in passing. His charge is one of whimsicality, and it may be true that in practice there is more difficulty in combining the novel of play with the novel of existential discovery than Kundera concedes. At first sight, Adult Pleasureslooks to be a rather miscellaneous assembly of articles and reviews (some of which first appeared in LRB), and – although adapted and expanded – their original format means that while remaining admirably economical, they are also sometimes frustratingly underdeveloped and short on illustration. Dan Jacobson’s subjects range from Byron to Isaac Babel, from Theodore Herzl the Zionist to the South African Olive Schreiner, and also include some mordant reflections on a D.H. Lawrence conference at Sante Fe and a note on the biblical genesis of his own novel The Rape of Tamar. There is, nevertheless, more continuity in the volume than might be expected, and its different parts have clearly, and rightly, been seen by the author as having interconnections that carry his arguments absorbingly forward.

The first section mostly derives from papers given to an academic audience and is, as Jacobson titles it, speculative. There is nothing pedantic or pedagogic in either his procedure or his propositions, however: in fact, one of Jacobson’s most useful purposes is to question the idea that the experience of literature is inherently and beneficially didactic. ‘The real teaching which an imaginative work offers us’, he insists, ‘the very source of whatever truth it contains, is the pleasure we get out of it.’ What ‘pleasure’ might mean in this context is the subject of some of the book’s best and most human pages. Great books, even when written by Tolstoy, do not help us to live our own lives better, nor are great writers to be valued as unacknowledged legislators or ‘antennae of the race’, their insights validated by the history they foresee. To treat literary works as oracles is a form of philistinism, because it extracts only one element from the multiplicity of fluctuating, warring and interdependent events that truly make them up. For the reader, the book must be the process of going through the whole of it, thus ‘miming’ what the author went through in creating it, with all his self-contradictions and internal irresolutions, and with all the failures to realise his original conception forced on him by the recalcitrance of the material.

It will be seen from this that Jacobson, like Kundera, thinks that reports of the author’s death have been much exaggerated. At one point, he sarcastically pities Babel for not realising that his sense of selfhood was an illusion because his works were really just the product of intertextuality and linguistic convention. But it is more than a joking matter since what happens in the self in its fantasy and as it relates to other selves in the world (both the self that writes and the self that reads) is the central field of Jacobson’s enquiry and the principal interest of his book.

Forster once complained that people simply wouldn’t realise how writers floundered about, and many of Jacobson’s most searching passages involve stimulating suggestions about authorial inconsistency. (We are not so far from Kundera’s uncertainty principle after all.) As an early example of those ‘contractions and compactions of feeling’, those ‘reversals and diversions of sympathy and hostility’ out of which novels are written, Jacobson cites the case of Emma Woodhouse’s rudeness to Miss Bates. Emma feels bad about it when rebuked by Mr Knightley, but shouldn’t Jane Austen feel so too, since she has herself been mocking Miss Bates all along? The reflexive element is found, writ large and portentously, in Byron’s narrative poems, whose heroes carry such a flamboyant burden of unexplained guilt. The central hollowness of Lara and Co., Jacobson suggests, may be an index of Byron’s doubts about his sincerity, his ‘self-battlement’, his fear that he – and they – may be faking it.Don Juan succeeds because reader and narrator both know that you can’t trust a word the latter says. Other cases discussed where the biography and the oeuvre are at odds include Disraeli (whose ‘aristocratic reveries’ are so at variance with his political behaviour) and Tolstoy (where the letters and the novels seem to be written by two different, and incompatible, people).

These inconsistencies are not the ‘fissures’ pounced on by those critics who like to think of texts as sites and are naturally alert to faults in the ideological sub-strata; their interplay is interior and dynamic. As Jacobson shows with much force, this appears with particular clarity in the Brontës. The dialectic between isolation and imagination dramatised in Jane Eyre is also taking place in her creator; the novel is full of fantasy which is then condemned for being that. Out of such ‘self-confounding’ desires the novel’s nature and vitality spring. Similarly, the ‘moral’ of Wuthering Heights is not to be found in the author’s approval or disapproval of any of its principals, but in those ssionate ambivalences’ in the author herself which she compels us to live through too. There is no sense that, in exposing such deep internal divisions, Jacobson is cheaply showing up genius. His point about Lawrence’s Women in Love – that it condemns in its characters that hypertrophy of the will only too plainly apparent in the author – is made with the proper respect: proper, because the reader’s self, like the author’s, is not one but many.

 

 

Loved quotes:

A novel examines not reality but existence. And existence is not what has occurred, existence is the realm of human possibilities, everything that man can become, everything he’s capable of. Novelists draw up the map of existence by discovering this or that human possibilities. But again, to exist mean: ‘being-in-the-world.’ Thus both the character and his world must be understood as possibilities.

Every novel says to the reader: “Things are not as simple as you think.” That is the novel’s eternal truth, but it grows steadily harder to hear amid the din of easy, quick answers that come faster than the question and block it off. In the spirit of our time, it’s either Anna or Karenin who is right, and the ancient wisdom of Cervantes, telling us about the difficulty of knowing and the elusiveness of truth, seems cumbersome and useless.

The unification of the planet’s history, that humanist dream which God has spitefully allowed to come true, has been accompanied by a process of dizzying reduction. True, the termites of reduction have always gnawed away at life: even the greatest love ends up as a skeleton of feeble memories. But the character of modern society hideously exacerbates this curse: it reduces man’s life to its social function; the history of a people to a small set of events that are themselves reduced to a tendentious interpretation; social life is reduced to political struggle, and that in turn to the confrontation of just two great global powers.

Man desires a world where good and evil can be clearly distinguished, for he has an innate and irrepressible desire to judge before he understands. Religions and ideologies are founded on this desire. They can cope with the novel only by translating its language of relativity and ambiguity into their own apodictic and dogmatic discourse. They require that someone be right: either Anna Karenina is the victim of a narrow-minded tyrant, or Karenin is the victim of an immoral woman; either K. is an innocent man crushed by an unjust Court, or the Court represents divine justice and K. is guilty.

This ‘either-or’ encapsulates an inability to tolerate the essential relativity of things human, an inability to look squarely at the absence of the Supreme Judge. This inability makes the novel’s wisdom (the wisdom of uncertainty) hard to accept and understand.

 

 

 

恐惧自由–Unbearable lightness of being

毕业季碰到一个即将要离开的朋友,问起我的现状,我想了一会儿突然回答说:

我现在蛮想就随便找一个人结个婚,生个孩子,打份工然后安定下来。

这个回答立刻让他大吃一惊,因为这些都是我以前最不耻的生活。我笑笑推荐他看一本书– Milan Kundera,  Unbearable lightness of being.

这本书是我最最常推荐给人看的,尤其是身边的人都是年轻的朋友。

但是有意思的事,我即使看了几遍,对这本书的内容都没有什么大的印象,除了几段性爱和有关性爱的描写。 Milan Kundera的书从来都不是为了告诉我们什么道理,而是用一个个描述的真实生活,来引导我们思考一些人生的基本问题。

这本书,问了一个最基本的生存问题,即我们 应该过一个轻的生活,还是一个重的生活。

轻重, 其实是一个很有哲学意味的词,轻的生活,指的是像Tomas, Sabina 一样, 推崇freedom, 不喜欢任何束缚, 不喜欢任何固定的关系 ,也不在乎各种社会评论。 而重的生活,就是Terasa 和 Franz 的生活,有自己的信仰,无论是对于爱情还是对于事业。

我们经常说,you only live life once. 这句话其实可以有两种解读:

你只有一次生命,所以要抓紧有意义活这一次生命,过一个meaningful life,

但也可以换一种,人生只有一种可能,所以我们必然会失去人生的另外几亿种可能,那失去这次又有什么关系呢?

所以有人生活的很用力,家国大义,养儿育女,参与社会都是他们为自己生命attach上的意义,把自己的生命都投身于这些中

但也有人生活的很随意,不愿意有任何的束缚,甚至也不愿意创造,雁过无痕地走完这一世

我原来属于就是那种喜欢extreme lightness of being的人, 我极不喜欢跟任何人有关系 ,包括至亲,包括同事,包括同学,对于各种关系,亲情友情爱情,我也是能免则免,能简则简。

不主动,不拒绝,不负责,是李敖对于感情的态度 ,也是我信奉的对于很多事情的态度。

我是独身主义者,很难想象要与任何人牵扯。

我也是无神论者,或者说,我根本什么都不信,我也从来没有不崇拜什么人。

但过了这么多年,我也开始深深的感到了lightness of being的这种不能承受。 这种生活最大的难处,就是其 emptiness, 还有就是随之而来的insecurity。

虽然看起来heavy life 比light life 更难, 不自由比自由更难, 但事实呢?其实是相反的。

自由,比不自由,更难。自由,需要更强的自信,这就是为什么我们总是最后放弃,选择社会convention的原因。

 

 

 

 

 

 

诗意的生活–Life is Elsewhere

高晓松的名句, 生活不只眼前的苟且,还有诗和远方,似乎得到了被生活压得喘不过气的大众极大认同,被广泛的引用着。虽然,我挺不赞同这种态度的。

Milan Kundera ,相反在Life is elsewhere中,描述了另一种生活态度— 如果一个人的生活,只有诗和远方呢?这就是这部小说的男主人, Jaromil.

其实这部小说原来的名字叫,the Lyric Age, 后来Kundera拿去给出版社,被编辑劝告,意思是这个书名是绝对卖不出去的,不得不改了这个名字。Life is Elsewhere 其实是一句大学生喜欢的革命口号,是对当下生活的不满。 改了以后,估计书是好卖了,但会对这部小说会有错误的预期。

其实这部小说还可以换一个书名, the portrait of a young man as an artist, 可惜早被James Joy用过了。。小说讲的也是一个立志当诗人的青年的一生,从出生,到最后的死亡。

诗人,是一种什么样的生活态度? sensitive, passionate,  young, romantic ,  emotional, etc, etc.  Jaromil,也正是这样的一种人, 会写字开始,就不断的写一些verse。

诗人眼里的现实,是另一种存在,跟一般普通人看到的利益得失不同的存在。 他的爱恨,都来得古怪。他的做事的原因与态度,也自有自己的一套准则。本来,Kundera是想批判这种生活,可是写下来的Jaromil是受不得他控制了. Jaromil 不可恨,也许有人觉得他对爱情不负责任,对革命不够坚定,生活着有点混沌,那又又如何呢?

诗人,永远都是一个孩子而已,他们的一切事情都只是随了自己的感受,自己的本心。而他们的感受又太过于丰富,美好,当然也脆弱。

Kundera这本书写得挺现代的,不是一个chapter 一个chapter的形式,更像是一个片断一个片断,一个想法一个想法累积起来的一个整体,这本书本身也像是一个大的诗,很多段的描述都很优美。

最后,诗人当然是不适合生活在现实中的,现实的苟且,不仅是我们生存的基础,也是我们对周围生活负责的一种体现。 诗与远方,那就留给疲备生活后,夜深人静时,自己的消遣吧,没必要非逼得每个人都这样。

 

 

 

 

朱生豪的情书

爱情是什么?

爱情, 就是一种迷药,能让最古板的人变得欢快,最理智的人变得疯狂,最正经的人变得下流,最善良的人变得自私,能让丑的人也有瞬间的美丽。

写情书是求爱的一大利器,古今中外都一样。可到是现在,IM ,video chat太方便了,这一利器反而少有人用了,有点可惜。情话不如情书,因为情书的优点在于,一是长,可以表达得多,二是可以慢慢写,反复推敲,反复删剪,三是对方收与拆这间,就是累积期待的过程,使其更珍贵。四是情书还是一个真实的物件,可以持久珍藏,反复拿来看。 一举多得啊。

我有一个朋友,在这个时代 ,不惜一封一封的写情书,寄给在NYC的女生,终抱得美人归,可见用得好,还是有效果的。不过自身还要有点实力,要不然像我这样子的写情书,就从来没有成功过。。

无意中翻到了朱生豪的情诗, 看了这个才子可爱的一面。国民时代算是一个特立独行的时候,那时的人都是赤热的,爱情都是奔放的,情书也自然是热烈的,在我们看来甚至有点肉麻,抛弃了中国古代的委婉含蓄。我最喜欢的情书,就是这句

陌上花开,可缓缓归矣

这句是委婉又深情到极点的情话, 无论何时看,心底都是瞬间一暖, 深情又含蓄的男子形象跃然纸上。

同时,这种表达也是我们最通用的表达方式。中国人大部分还是不习惯露骨的说,我想你,我爱你之类的,往往借助于它人或者它物委婉的说,但不代表着,我们爱得不深,念得不狂。

“妈问你回不回来吃饭”,“儿子说今晚想你给他讲故事”,“听说这部电影很好看” 等等

若有似无,似是而非,实则确是相当浪漫。

露骨的话,也要写得好,不能直接了当,翻来复去就那么几个字,很容易无聊。我小时候有一个男朋友,每次都发类似的情话,I love you, 宝贝啊,爱你一万年啊之类的,三次以后便觉得过于恶心。

朱生豪,果然是有学养的人,他的情书胜在,把大胆赤热的情书把热恋的感情描述的很准确,故让人读想来有同感。

醒来觉得甚是爱你

这大概就是热恋中的人都有的状态,不经易的瞬间,或是清晨起来,或是独自回家,或是吃饭,或是小憩时,想起恋人,觉得甚是欢喜。

我是,我是宋清如至上主义者。

情人永远是最宝贵的~~ 这话说得很高级

以前我最大的野心便是和你成为好朋友,现在我的野心,便是希望这种友谊能持续到死时

说得这么卑微,我见尤怜啊。。

你不懂写信的艺术,像“请你莫怪我,我不肯嫁你”这种句子,怎么可以放在信的开头地方呢?
你试想一想,要是我这信偶尔被别人在旁边偷看见了,开头第一句便是这样的话,我要不要难为情?
理该是放在中段才是。否则把下面“今天天气真好,春花又将悄悄地红起来”二句搬在头上做帽子,也很好。“今天天气真好,春花又将悄悄地红起来,我没有什么意见”这样的句法,一点意味都没有;但如果说“今天天气真好,春花又将悄悄地红起来,请你莫怪我,我不肯嫁你”,那就是绝妙好辞了。
如果你缺少这种poetical instinct,至少也得把称呼上的“朱先生”三字改做“好友”,
或者肉麻一点就用“孩子”;你瞧“朱先生,请你莫怪我,我不肯嫁你”这样的话多么刺耳;
“好友,请你莫怪我,我不肯嫁你”,就给人一个好像含有不得不苦衷的印象了,
虽然本身的意义实无二致;问题并不在“朱先生”或“好友”的称呼上,
而是“请你莫怪我……”十个字,根本可以表示无情的拒绝和委婉的推辞两种意味。你该多读读《左传》。

被宋青如拒绝后,他的回信反而是一种幽默宽容的语调,绝对能博美人一笑,换谁收到这种信都不会真舍弃这个男人。

我想要在茅亭里看雨、假山边看蚂蚁,看蝴蝶恋爱,看蜘蛛结网,看水,看船,看云,看瀑布,看宋清如甜甜地睡觉。

多有诗意啊,这么多的美景的叠加,只为烘托最后一句,你甜甜的睡姿。。

要是世上只有我们两个人该多好,我一定把你欺负的哭不出来

我渴望和你打架,也渴望抱抱你

一会儿恨你,一会儿体谅你,一会儿发誓不再爱你,一会儿发誓无论你怎样待我不好,我总死心眼儿爱你,一会儿在想象里把你打了一顿,一会儿在想象里让你把我打了一顿,十足地神经错乱,肉麻而且可笑。

爱一个人就是这种感觉,想爱他又想弄他,想看他笑也想看他怒。所谓的相敬如宾,反倒是过于生疏,不会是热恋的感觉

最后他的称呼也很厉害,“阿姊、傻丫头、青女、无比的好人、宝贝、小弟弟、小鬼头儿、昨夜的梦、宋神经、小妹妹、哥儿、清如我儿、女皇陛下”, 自称也多,“小瘌瘌头,鸭, Lucifer ,米非士都非勒斯, Sir Galahad,无赖” ,花样百出。。。

下次再有机会,可以品品其它的情书,比如有名凤求凰(一日不见,思之如狂),比如王小波(也是走这种幽默肉麻类型的),沈从文的,徐志摩的。或者 我也自己应该练练手,存下几个备品,以便不时之需。。

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The achievement habit

Stanford d.school 这几年火到不行,我个人也很喜欢,每次有同学来学校参观一定会把他们带那里去看看。可是我马上意识到,仅仅参观一个地方真是一件很low的事情,d.school的 还真不是去一下那幢普通 的楼就能探其一二的。万幸是d.school的教授经常会出书,所以推荐这本,最新的co founder出的书, the achievement habit.

 

 

Design, 说是艺术但跟其它的艺术完全不一样的一点是,它是极具目的性的。Artists,以我的理解,注得于表达,能激起观者什么反应不是他们在乎的事情。印象派的不会因为画这幅是为了什么什么什么而这样画,作曲家也不会说这个交响乐是改变什么什么而这样写,最后达到的效果,往往是一种衍生品。但Design 是完全不同的一个事情,他一定是为了满足某一个特定的purpose而存在的,为了达到一个目的而设计出来的如何达到那种目的方法。

为什么design现在这么流行呢?

以我浅见,还是因为我们的生活更加自由了,有更多的选择做任何的事情。但面对这么多的选择,反而出现了一种无所适从的现象。 我们可以选择上大学,或者不上大学,可以选择进公司或者自由职业,可以选择结婚或者单身,可以选择生孩子或者不生,可以选择各种职业,各种各样的生活方式,但面对林林总总的选择,如何做一个决定却异常困难。The paradox of choice,也描述的是同样一种困境。d.school的综旨就是把design thinking 应用于各个地方, 把我们生活的所有问题,看成一个design problem, 然后用design thinking的方式去找到最适合的方法。

正如我开始提到,design是一个完全有目的性的活动,所以遇到第一个问题就是—-

life has no meaning.

这也是本书开始的第一句话。我们的误解往往来自于听一个观点,看一件事情,只看了一部分。对于Existentialism 的误 解也来自于此。 当存在主义说任何都没有意义时,Sartre不得不再写一本书,重新强调一点: 人生没有意义,所以要我们自己去创造意义。

本书的title, achievement,也是包含同样的意义。 当我们被这种虚无主义包围时,觉得人生就是没有意义所以可以“随心所欲”时,只能发现我们自己更加迷茫,更加无措。  即使人生没有固定的purpose, meaning, 作为活着的每一个人, 我们还是得为自己构造出意义,构造于我们想成为的样子。可以是成为什么什么样的人,可以是想获得什么什么样的东西,都没有关系。 至于如何选择自己想要的东西,这又是一个很困难的问题,我自己也不知道答案。但永远可以用类似 Socratic dialogue的方式,去反复的问自己的心.

知道 自己想要什么样的状态了,接下去如何去做,对大部分人都是很容易的事情,尤其是身边很多highly educated 的朋友,problem solving 应该是我们最拿手的一件事情。

所以需要的,是我们用像对待我们的工作,对等我们的学业一样,认真的,积极的,对待我们的生活、

 

附上本书的link:

http://www.theachievementhabit.com/

 

 

Book : Zero to One

Actually, I finished the book long time ago, but the recent conversation with one friend, bringing back all the memories of the insights from this great book.

This book is often treated as a simple guide book for startups, since the author is famous for  co founding Paypal and also is a successful venture capitalist. However, it shouldn’t be confined to just a business book, this book touches a much deep topic– the merits of innovation and how to truly get success in every sphere of life ( of course that is simply my take on this).

Run away from IT and the Big data as fast as you can!

In Silicon Valley, this claim would be laughed at so hard since everything seems tagged with software and big data. However, if we scrutinize the SV,  it’s clear that the environment is much tough for the next big IT company, like Facebook or Google to come. IT is mainly a tool for providing information. Now, there is no IT service an average customer needs which has not been provided. Actually we are supplying much more than people need. Artificial Intelligence is still a myth by now. Big data is definitely not the solution for true intelligence, but breakthrough from neural science has not yet arrived. In some sense, IT industry is in a huge stagnation.

As a consequence, the competition remains so fierce that few companies really can make a profit, if not the hyped bubble.

But SV still is the most vibrant place in the world, the next great things would be not in the IT but somewhere else, like biology, space, energy etc.

Innovation is hard, but the reward is huge

Compared with globalization, innovation, which means from zero to one, is hard. Great things needs time, talents, huge resources to make it happen. However, the reward is huge since you are the monopoly in the field.

So it also applies to other field. Building  your unique core competence is  much better chasing the trends and  following what others are doing.

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创业在中国

想起这本书是因为最近见到了一个大学的朋友,跟所有的中国年轻人一样,我们又回到了一个老话题– 回国创业?

创业在中国有多火,就不必我再提了。这几年,我还没有见过任何一个人没有过想创业想法。

但是这真的是一个好想法嘛?

如果时间倒退回十年前,情况就是像书中提出的globalization理论一样,是一种横向的发展,把技术横向推广到全世界,就能赚很多的钱。这就是中国最著名的 C to C 模式(copy to China), 的确是获得了很大的成功。

但这几年,能copy 的机会都copy 完了, 中国的互联网也成了世界上最发达的地区之一了,剩下的就只有zero to one 的创新模式。

创新,以我的浅见,有一种技术门槛低,是发掘用户未被满足的需求。这种创新要对市场有很精准的认识。可惜我们都太年轻,很多又是生活在另一个宇届的宅男宅女,对于普通人到底需要什么是不可能有理解的。这种创业自然是前几个进去属于大赢家,所以要抓住时机,看到有把握的机会,不能有半点迟疑。

另一种是技术创新,难度之大,不是读了几个Ph.D 就能做成的。况且在中国,大量的前期投资技术创新的VC还是少之又少。 与其在很年轻的时候就回国创业,不如在自己的行业多工作几年,有真的很好的想法,再行动也不迟。

我见到的大部分人,是因为喜欢创业的氛围。心灵鸡汤似的,年轻就要追求梦想之类的。固然,创业比守着朝九晚五的工作要有意思多了,顺便也能泡几个大学女生。

如果把创业仅仅当之为人生游玩的一部分,自然也没什么问题,只是不要放过高的期望就好。总是有人把创业失败率低,当成自己不成功的借口。也许,千军万马创业,只有少数人成功,这并不是买彩票一样的随机事件,而是因为这些人,根本不清楚自己在想要什么,刚开始就注定是失败的呢?

竞争

中国有前几年,一直鼓吹竞争,似乎市场经济 == 竞争,然后完全的竞争会降低成本为消费者获利。 以此为由,知识产权在中国一直很难被保护。但竞争,其实是很不好的一种形式,过度的竞争只能是每个人都是loser.

商家不是消费者的敌人,不能用竞争把商家的利润无限趋于0,那长期的investment,是不可能发生的。有一次听一个中国企业家讲座,就提到他做企业时把很多的时间用来分析竞争对手的strategy, 消耗了自己大量本应用于产品研发的精力。竞争,产生于跟风的门槛低,一个business被证明是成功了,市场需求被证实了,就有大量的人跟进,不可避免,尤其是技术门槛很低的时候。而提高技术,品牌影响力,又不是一件特别容易的事情。

Anyway,   人生不在于一时,大量的青春电影和创业,让我们过度的崇拜年轻人,过度的崇拜激情,而那不是人生最成熟的时候,也不是最了解自己的时候。有时,等一等,可能是更好的选择。机会,总是会有的。

 

 

 

 

Escape from Freedom

Freedom has a twofold meaning for modern man: that he has been freed from traditional authorities and has become an ‘individual,’ but that at the same time he has become isolated, powerless and an instrument of purposes outside of himself, alienated from himself and others; furthermore, that this state undermines his self, weakens and frightens him, and makes him ready for submission to new kinds of bondage.

-Eric  Fromm

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Freedom, is often  regarded as a human’s innate desire. Human history is fused with bloody battles to gain freedom from external powers bonded us, like authorities, traditions, culture or environmental constrains.

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However, this book investigated an interesting question :

 Can freedom become a burden, too heavy for man to bear, something he tries to escape from?

Throughout history, we can also find out lots of evidence to prove people’s volunteer escape from freedom. Religion extremes, ultra-nationalism,  even Nazi are all great examples to show people giving up their individuality simply to be in part of a huge institution.

Why? 

The author argues, which I totally agree , this is due to human’s fear of isolation and powerlessness. True independence is hard to obtain. Even though the modern technology and capitalism  renders people  a lot of power to be economically independent, it can’t give people a sense of security , which lots of people desperately needed. The sense of security and belonging is usually found in connection with others, like being part of large group.  If one can’t find it, the results would be lost, confusion and anxiety.

It seems that nothing is more difficult for the average man to bear than the feeling of not being identified with a larger group.So whenever another authority comes, new social orders, new values, even new dictatorship, he is ready to surrender. Even in democratic society,  people seems to be free,  in stead the reality is that they simply automatically register to the values imposed on them and never think about it. They believe  it’s their own thinking, but maybe not true.

For many, the individuality they claim is an illusion.  They adopt entirely the kind of personality offered to them by cultural patterns; and they therefore become exactly as all others are and as expected to be.

The solution?

The author suggest the positive  form of freedom based on original thinking and spontaneity. Judge everything based on your own thinking and feelings, retain the curiosity and cheerfulness as a child.

Two things would help escape from the fear, work and love. But still, how to achieve that has to be found out by oneself.

The journey would be long and winding, however, remaining the status of relying on others for security is not sustainable. Also, the temporary calm and security comes with a high price — lose oneself.

If possible, give yourself a chance to grow your own total personality.

 

The Road to Character —–what do you want your eulogy to say?

What doth it profit a man, to gain the whole world, and lose his own soul

                                                                                          —-  Mark 8:36

I recently read two books by the New York Times famous columnist, David Brooks. I believe lots of people have read or even fans of his writing, in which he shows a keen eye for various social phenomenons and the unparalleled talent to analyze and explain those to the general public.

David Brooks

I guess the inspiration of writing this book may be coming from his frustration of the ever shallow society. As he has claimed on his book tour, he has a natural disposition towards shallowness. The technology and life quality are both progressing, but unfortunately, the morality has degraded.

In his opinion, the young generation are so obsessed with the Adam I or resume virtue, which is the skills helping to make the fat pay check, getting a good position in job market. But we ignore another quality, the Adam II, or the eulogy virtue, which are the true characters.  Who am I really? Besides of all the skills and positions, what do I really look like? or what kind of person do I want to be?

Instead of vaguely talking about characters, in his book, “The Road to Character “, David Brooks tells ten stories of famous historic figure. Through their stories, we can see how they search, find and cultivate their characters. Those stories are both fascinating and well written.

However, does it matter? Can we be sufficient to live a hedonistic life?

Luckily, someone can, but someone can’t. I don’t want to pose any judgement on others’ lives,especially nowadays, we are provided with abundance entertainment. It’s so much easier and cheap to entertain yourself through music, movies, food, travel, party, games, sports, etc.  We even don’t spend time with ourselves so it is hard to feel any void in ourselves. In contrast, suffering, self abasement, spiritual calling and meaning become absurd.  It is even harder to live a meaningful life in such a self absorbed society.

However, I am still deeply touched by these stories, especially Augustine and George Eliot. I admire their constant efforts to  peruse their souls, without any material rewards. I guess I will do the same, so that when my death comes, I would truly rest in peace and tell myself —- I have lived a good life.

The end of power and what’s next

In the 21st century, power is easier to get, harder to use , and easier to lose

— Moises Naim, The End of Power

Book– The end of Power

Years of glancing various Chinese online platforms, I have one impression — more and more young people are lamenting about the extremely stratified society. It seems that in China, even if you are smart and dedicated, your chance of having a good life is so dim compared with people who are born in wealthy family.

Social stratification is not a new phenomenon, actually it is taken for granted for thousands of years. However, since communist revolution gives its people a false illusion that everyone gets the equal share ( in fact, we have one period of socialism) , people find its hard to re justify the inequality. Not to mention, most of the new rich people assemble huge wealth simply through corruption.

But the silver lining is —- as this time, the power is decaying. Even the most powerful people in the world, find the difficult to execute the power. The key elements which make this happen are More, Mobility and Mentality.  To illustrate the concept, there are lots of detailed cases, statistics, and discussion. The best example might be the information technology. The companies who are currently dominating could be out of business quite soon.

The positive consequence for the decay of power is more freedom in society, more options for voters, more social organization, more ideas and creativity, more competitions and thus better quality for customers, etc . However, there is also some drawbacks. The lack of power in political system makes changes or long term projects hard to happen. It also facilitates lots of extreme groups simply to attract public attention. Meanwhile, the ability to cooperate and address big problems like climate change, becomes weaken as well. For business sections, we see more and more companies desperately lower the price to maintain the competition, which is often referred as ruinous competition.  I always believe ” free lunch ” model in IT companies is a bad business strategy in long term.

Anyway, the book will change our mindset about lots of traditional thinking which is so deeply rooted in our minds. As for the future, it will always complex, flexible and full of opportunity. Opposite to lots of my Chinese peers, I actually believe we will have more opportunities and enjoy more mobility. The only thing we need to do is not settling for traditional industry and looking out for opportunities with open mind.

book read: scarcity

I once heard Sendhil Mullainathan speak at an event in DC, and he was smart and engaging. He’s a MacArthur Foundation genius, a Harvard economist, and a TED speaker. He has a wry sense of humor and tells anecdotes from his personal life to make his economics work come alive. And all of that is in this book, written with his long-time collaborator, Eldar Shafir, who’s a Princeton psychologist.

Still this book was a bit of a disappointment, possibly because I expected so much. A lot of the conclusions are, well, obvious. The book’s entire thesis can be summarized as: “People make bad decisions when they are resource-constrained, whether the resources in question are money, time, food, or something else.” Some of it recaps what has been said before about hyperbolic discounting in economics.

The book’s chapters go like this…

Intro – definition of “scarcity” and overview of its consequences
Chap. 1 – The good: scarcity can cause focus. The bad: focus can mean inattention to other things.
Chap. 2 – Scarcity causes an internal disruption that makes it harder to make good decisions.
Chap. 3 – Slack (the opposite of scarcity) allows better choices and reduces the bad consequences of failiure.
Chap. 4 – Poor people are sometimes more realistic about estimating costs, because they have to be.
Chap. 5 – Borrowing when you’re short of cash leads to a descending spiral of debt.
Chap. 6 & 7 – Poverty is a vicious circle of scarcity leading to bad decisions leading to scarcity…
Chap. 8 – Poverty can be alleviated by creating slack, such as extra cash or day care to create more time.
Chap. 9 – Efficient use of resources and division of labor helps organizations become more efficient.
Chap. 10 – Efficient use of self-control helps with life issues.

On the positive side, the book contains some interesting stories, and a rich set of endnotes to track down the many studies the authors cite. On the negative side, the book keeps talking about how mainstream economics is traditionally (for example, that people are “rational” decision makers), just so the authors can tear down the mainstream view. Economists come across as completely clueless, which maybe they are. Is it really surprising that when you’re poor, hungry, and stressed, that you would make less than rational decisions?

Mullainathan and Shafir seem aware of this problem with the book. Chap. 2 contains some defensive passages about how bad decisions under scarcity are different from bad decisions due to stress. The explanation isn’t compelling, and unlike most of their other claims, that passage doesn’t have lots of studies to back it up.

The most interesting study in the book is one about street vendors in India who are in perpetual debt from a loan-sell-repay cycle (Chap. 6). The researchers give the vendors a cash grant to pay off their debts, which should have allowed them to start saving a little and eventually eliminate the need for borrowing altogether. One by one, though, the vendors fall back into debt. Any non-economist would see this as challenges of personality or habit. It’s the same reason why couch potatos find it hard to get off the couch and exercise everyday. The authors, though, somehow turn this into a story of scarcity. How it was because there wasn’t enough slack. Why don’t they do an experiment where they give everyone a little extra cash to save? They don’t, though, and I’d bet good money that with additional cash, the vendors would still have fallen back into debt eventually. What the vendors need is some training and hand-holding.

This study illustrates one of the biggest problems with the book. In order to make a case for the centrality of scarcity, the authors go too far. Not every bad decision is about scarcity. Sometimes, people are dumb, and sometimes there are dumb people. And sometimes, people are smart, and there are also smart people. At one point, the authors write, “all people, if they were poor, would have less effective bandwidth.” Not sure about that. My grandmother managed seven kids and ran a shop, but she was dirt poor until her children grew up. (less)