爱得越深伤得越重–最完美的离婚

好久没看日剧了,近几年的日剧都已经被不结婚的女人和食堂攻占了,难得翻到一个好剧,花了一晚上看完,正是这部最完美的离婚。
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90年代的日剧几乎都是爱情剧,东京爱情故事,悠长假期,恋爱世纪,美丽人生,魔女的故事等等。而如今的爱情剧锐减,估计也与日本女性越来越独立自主有关,而这部剧算是反朴归真之作,没有什么狗血的桥段,没有独身主义或者性解放的新思想,2男2女4个主角都是希望好好的经营爱情,婚姻,可即使是如此,还是一路波折。编剧最惊喜的地方是先从离婚开始写,直接写出相处的问题然后再一步步的缝合到最后喜剧收尾。

我一直觉得能经营好婚姻,最好就是两个人根本不爱,用朋友的模式相处。由爱生恨,由爱生怨,总会让人不理智,而处理不好关系。

光生&结夏:光生是很典型的亚洲小男人,不浪漫,不主动,不善表达感情,连爱情婚姻都好像是被动的承受者,有洁癖,爱唠叨。跟妻子结夏这种大大咧咧的性格完全不同,导致他们日常相处中很多的磨擦。虽说灯里指责他自私,我倒觉得他并不见得是自私,而是过于自我,完全没有注意到身边的其它人,而受伤最深的就是他的妻子。

结夏,最爱光生的结夏,外表开朗内心细腻。 她太爱光生了,从恋爱开始一直就迁就着光生,有一个细节,她很想办一个婚礼,光生觉得麻烦她也就算了。我也曾经像结夏一样,很爱很爱一个男人,一直觉得只要能在他身边就好,能看着他就好了。即使明知道对方不是那么爱自己,也觉得无所谓。我想内心多多少少,总是相信长时间的陪伴,总会换来想要的爱情。

可惜事与愿违,而内心的欲望也不断的在膨胀。刚开始自信满满,坚信爱不需要回报,单方面付出足已,但对于每次的付出,都得不来一丝丝的在意,连句谢谢也没有,终有一天再也坚持不住了,为了不再伤心流泪,只能斩断一切。最伤心的是,在结束的那一刻,也没有换来一句挽回的话语。

怎么办呢? 只能装成很大方的样子,笑笑的走开。编剧对于结夏是仁慈的,离婚后还给了他们相处的时光,再让光生去挽回。可现实中,大部分的故事就这样结束了。 我有时总是嘲笑那些所谓无条件的爱情,能做到只是付出却一点不在意结果的人, 能有多少?理智上能说服,感情又能如何接受呢?爱情,总是要相互的才好。

附上结夏在决定离开的时候给光生的信,

致光生:
写下了你的名字,我自己都吓了一跳,印象中太长时间都没有叫过你的名字,有点紧张,总之先向你报告一下,我搬出去了。你进门以后大吃一惊吧,有没有目瞪口呆?我会把原委说清楚的,你就先冷静下来看完这封信吧。
光生啊,我觉得我们继续这样住在一起有些不对劲,我们已经离婚有段日子了,我觉得总有些不方便,究竟哪里不方便,我也说不清楚。最近看到你,就莫名的觉得心静不下来,我也想方设法的消除自己的烦躁,或者努力恢复原先的状态,但都不成功。
我曾说过你是个怪人,或许最奇怪的人是我,我没办法协调好很多事,跟喜欢的人在生活上步调不一致,合拍的人却又喜欢不起来。我从来都无法赞同你的言行举动,却还是喜欢你啊。爱情与生活经常发生碰撞,该怎么说呢,这或许是在我有生之年都无法治愈的顽疾。
以前我们不是去看过一次电影吗?就是我迟到了10分钟那次,我在过人行道的时候看到你站在约好的地方,一副很冷的样子,把手插在口袋里。我一想到这个人正在等我呢,不知为何就觉得很开心,就想一直远远看着你,因为你的身影可比电影好看多了。我喜欢偷偷看你。你很害羞,很少面向我,所以我有很多机会可以偷偷看你,我们俩并排走在目黑川的时候,我偷偷看过你,看DVD的时候,读书的时候,我总是偷偷看着你,心里自然而然的充满了喜悦,嫁进可以看到樱花的家里,和讨厌樱花的人一起生活,但我比你所想的更加依赖你。虽然我们并没有平等的包容对方,但是我体会到了躺在你膝上放松身心的舒适安宁,就好像猫咪一样,一整天都沐浴在阳光下一般,或许我就像是生活在这个家里的第3只猫咪吧。谢谢你做的美味饭菜,谢谢你铺的温暖床铺,谢谢你曾轻抚我枕在你膝上的头,能仰望你,俯视你,能偷偷看你,凝视你,对我而言,都是无可替代的幸福。
光生,谢谢你。
虽然是我自己决定要分开,但也觉得有点寂寞,但是,如果我又想偷偷看看你,或者想跟你说说话的时候,总会再见的。

灯里&谅: 女人对于花心的男人,总是无可奈何。 他们总是不停的在道歉,发誓,可是总是下次又管不住自己的心。每一次,女人都希望这是浪子回头,最后都只能化成脸上的泪水。但爱上了,又能怎么样呢?

出轨后的男人,能不能原谅,该不该原谅? 没经历过以前,我总觉得没什么大不了的,可是亲身经历过后,就能完全理解那种发狂的愤怒,止不住的胡思乱想,在心里总是留下了一个结,时不时的总会嘴快冒出几句狠话。灯里算是很成熟很理智的了,最后如果不是有孩子了,结局也难讲。

 

最后终于等到瑛太长成成熟男人了, 瑛太这次的表演实在是太赞了!! 片尾与OST也超赞的!

TV: my love from the stars


Ok, this is the most popular show across asian right now, I scanned it just using several hours. Though I am definitely not a big fan of korean drama, after I graduate from college. the reason for watching is just purely from curiosity. Why is it so popular now?

I have to say it is a good show, drama as its name suggests, is a drama. You shouldn’t judge it from how truthful the story line is, it is a merely fiction, providing people some escape from reality,  helping  people to fantasize about wealth and sweet love. However, we should keep our head clear after watching it. It ‘s quite ridiculous to see how the fans waste their time tracking their favorite actors/actresses private life,  buying their idols personal belongs rocked high price. It is just insane.

another thing I am afraid about, is how watching K drama would change women’s idea

would the drama raise the bar of people searching for partner? sure, now the male character has all the wonderful characteristic women ever fancy about. such foolish drama.

Ok, I realize I shouldn’t judge people’s hobby. there is no good or bad hobby,  watching tv is bad, wondering on Internet is bad, but what if someone just can’t stop it?  people should have time to relax and have fun. If korean drama can provide women the things they want, we should be ok with that. but like everything else, overdose could cost problems. addiction may change people’s view on everything else.

How could we determine whether or not this is addictive and we have to abandon it?  I don’t know, maybe this kind of drama should put a tag on it and prevent people from watching it?

we need a long process to go

重看仙剑奇侠

仙剑是我最喜欢的电视剧之一,包括金粉世家, 都是我认为中国内地拍的最好的电视剧,剧情对于当时的我,都可能只是一知半解,但这么多年过去了,回头再看看,依然觉得很有启发,而且很有意义

有时觉得爱情这个东西,可以说是这世界上最最奇怪的东西了,很难讲得清楚原因,而且我本身也觉得根本不存在什么原因,存在的都是说不清道不明的感觉~

但爱情就是这样,我应该抓住主动权,好好努力经营我自己,好好学习,好好生活,但当爱情来临的时候,应该毫不犹豫的抓住 !!

a TV drama I recently watched

it is a Taiwan TV drama, called ” the fierce wife”

Top rank in Taiwan.
this drama is really meaningful to watch.
My comment on Taiwan drama is boring and nothing special with those fairy tales love story and not reality at all but this is the drama that I felt so impressive with it.
It give the life guidance to everyone.
How we gonna solve it when the marriage suffering a problem
This drama is regarding a simple and lovely marriage ruin by her cousin sister.
her husband insist to divorce with her just because of the third party (cousin sister)
so ridiculous that a guy who falling in love with her wife’s sister.
suck + disgusted.
In the end, he lost everything and regrets about that.
but love is fierce, marriage  really gets boring with the time.
so both should have a good sense of responsibility to maintain it.
that is the reason why I don’t love marriage, and not intend to get married some day. at least now,
love is difficult~~~
relationship is hard
but that is the point which makes it much interesting~~